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Elle Tait—My Side of the Fence

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I watched the video Sequoia Senior Solutions had on this blog last week and I was glad to see Pete Seeger, a young 92 year old, featured. I looked at other blog posts on this site and saw that all of them, except the poem by the Crabby Old Man, were aimed at caregivers.

I felt inclined to give this blog some more information from my side of the fence. Surely, some of the people reading this will be the ones who need caregivers even if we are not all stricken with Alzheimer’s Disease or at least are not so ill we cannot make decisions on our own.

My baby sister takes care of me. I’m 68 and she is 62. After two car accidents and a family member who battered me, I became bed bound. Oh, I can get around a little on my own, but not far and not for long. I no longer drive, cook which was something I enjoyed, nor clean. I’d be glad if I could even do that now.

I spend every day except Wednesdays and doctor visits in bed either sleeping or watching television. I do some exercises to keep my arms and legs in shape, but I have a tendency to fall backwards when I stand. I hate reading because my eyes are not what they used to be; and the reading glasses I have, well, let’s just say, they are best for reading clothing catalogs.

Wednesdays are the high point of my week. After I had triple bypass surgery a year ago, I spent some time in a rehabilitation center/nursing home. I made a lot of friends there. Now my sister takes me back to get my hair done and to visit my friends weekly.

I guess the worst problem I have, besides not being able to get up and be gainfully employed, is that I am lonely. My sister stays home and does for me what she can, but she works out of her home office. I only visit with her in the evenings. She is tired and I want to talk. I haven’t talked to anyone all day while she just wants to be still and watch television.

I feel guilty when I ask her to stop work and do something either with me or for me. She does the best she can as she is trying to support us both.

I want all your readers to know that while I may not have the best life I could have, I am thankful for what I do have. I have a loving home, a sister’s care and friends I get to visit. I have comfortable bed, plenty to eat and I am alive.

Thanks for hearing from my side of the fence.

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  1. Thanks for sharing your story. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

  2. Stanton Lawson

     /  March 26, 2012

    Karen, thanks for your kindness. I will pass your thoughts and prayers along to Elle. Please come visit us again.

  3. Wow – thank you for this story. It puts a lot of things in perspective. I’m proud of you for keeping such a bright outlook on life, even in the midst of less-than-desirable circumstances.

  4. Stanton Lawson

     /  March 26, 2012

    Anthony, I will pass along your comments to Elle. I’m glad you could see how thankful she is in her life in spite of her difficulties. Please come back again.

  5. You don’t know me- so you’ll have to trust me when I say, I’m at a loss for words…

    I will say that it would be a useful idea to get a computer in your room, one with a camera and a microphone, so that you can meet and talk with folks around the world. It would be kind of like the old CB radio stuff, but it can help you interact with others- the one thing you crave during the day. (I always thought that was one of the primary reasons to have a CB set in the first place.)

  6. Stanton Lawson

     /  March 26, 2012

    Roy, that is a very good idea. Would you mind if I use that in a post for other people in Elle’s situation? I will pass along your suggestion to her. Thanks, and I can’t imagine you at a loss for words;

  7. I agree with Roy. There are many gadgets today available by free that can make virtual communication a snap. Moreover, I believe there are willing to teach how to use those gadgets for free in the context of a good cause.

  8. Stanton Lawson

     /  March 26, 2012

    This is a good idea, Gustavo. I think I know someone who can teach this woman how to use the computer. Thanks for stopping by.

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