Are you a member of the Sandwich Generation? Are you taking care of your own children and your elderly parents at the same time? If you, welcome to the Sandwich Generation.
There are around 65 million people in the U.S., mostly women, who are taking care of an elderly parent, most often one with dementia or Alzheimer’s disease. This is a very hard job. Add to that they are also raising their own kids and possibly working at the same time.
“You’re already a parent to your children, and then suddenly you have to become a caregiver to your parent,” says Donna Schempp, LCSW, program director at the Family Caregiver Alliance in San Francisco. “It’s very hard to be constantly flipping between those different roles.”
As someone in the Sandwich Generation, you are squeezed between the two roles you are playing. It’s not easy and can test your family, marriage, health and career. You know what I am talking about.
So it is important for you to learn more about the disease your elderly parent suffers from and learn how to plan in order to make your life easier (I didn’t say easy) for your family and yourself.
The first thing you have to accept is that you are a person with a job, a family and now a parent with, say, Alzheimer’s disease. So you need to accept the new role of caregiver.
You don’t think so? You think all you are doing is taking your mother shopping and putting out her trash. Well, welcome to being a caregiver. According to Donna Schempp, “Caregiving doesn’t just mean taking care of a loved one 24 hours a day. If you’re helping a parent out with the basics of living, you’re a caregiver. If your visits have stopped being social and become a necessity, you’re a caregiver.”
The experts say that the sooner you accept the role, the better for you and your family. You all have a lot to prepare for. Are you going to take your loved one into your home? Do you have the money to support care in a nursing facility? You need to look into getting some home health care.
We at Sequoia Senior Solutions can help you figure out what you need to do to make the transition to adding caregiver to your list of duties. Over the next few weeks we are going to look at how being a caregiver will affect your family, your job and yourself. Since these are just going to be general posts, each of your situations will be differently and you need to seek help figuring out how you will cope.
Where you aware you were a caregiver? Are you a member of the Sandwich Generation?
Stanton Lawson is the Co-Owner of Sequoia Senior Solutions. Sequoia’s mission is to ensure a better quality of life for their elderly clients and their families, by providing dependable and affordable in-home care. Sequoia’s focus is to keep you or your loved ones at home and avoid:
- Loss of friends and possessions
- Loss of independence and freedom
- Loss of spirit which is drained by the battles of daily living
Sequoia Senior Solutions, Inc. services Lake, Marin, Mendocino, Napa, Sonoma and Solano Counties. The main office is located at191 Lynch Creek Way, Suite 102, Petaluma, CA 94954. Email firstname.lastname@example.org Tel: (707) 763-6600 Fax: (707) 763-6607, www.sequoiaseniorsolutions.com.